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Moving from Cancel Culture to Counsel Culture

May 14, 2021 by Lauren 28 Comments

Much has been said of late about the “Cancel Culture” we find ourselves neck deep in.  Social media often spearheads this bullying.  In essence, someone makes a mistake or holds to a different belief than you, so they are dead to you.  And while “canceling” is scary and mean-spirited on the world wide web, it is alive and well IRL too.  And that makes me incredibly sad.

 

I believe the origin of cancel culture stems from the desire to protect our own image.  If someone (friend, family member or celebrity we don’t even know) says something or acts in a way counter to what we believe, we create as much distance from them as we can.  Often very loudly, lest someone mistakenly think we adhere to the same ideology.

 

The problem?  As believers we put the “protection of our witness” above the Lord’s command to love. (My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. John 15:12 NIV)  And speaking of our witness, John 17:23 says coming together in “complete unity” is how others will know about Jesus and His love for them.  Does “complete unity” mean we agree on everything?  Of course not.  That will never happen.  But it does mean that we show love and respect to each other in the midst of our differences.

 

As believers we cannot participate in this toxic canceling practice.  When we cut someone off and out over a mistake made or a wrong choice, we negate the work of Jesus on the cross.  He came to redeem.  Cancel culture says, “You are bad.  You will never change.  You are not worthy.”  If any of that is true, what did Jesus die for?”

 

Counsel culture says,  all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23 NIV  but that Out of his [God’s] fullness we have all received grace in place of grace already given. John 1:16 NIV  Grace in place of grace!  Do you know what that means?  When we trust Jesus to save us from our sins, grace covers over all we’ve done in opposition to God.  And from that point on, every time we sin, more grace just rains down on us.  A continual waterfall of forgiveness that never stops pouring.

 

This is such fantastic news for all of us.  Because we all have dark and wretched parts.  Therefore we all have the potential to commit a “cancelable” offense.  So what’s a Christian to do?  We follow the example of Jesus.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 NIV  In other words love, love and love some more.  In doing so you will point others to Jesus.  And that’s the main thing.

 

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Debbie W. Wilson was singing my tune next week with praying scripture over others.  In this case specifically for children in Mothers of Prodigals:  Draw hope from Samson.  And I did!  What an encouragement coming off of Mother’s Day week.  Thanks, Debbie.

 

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Princess Consuela Banana Hammock…and Grace and Truth Link Up

April 9, 2021 by Lauren 22 Comments

Today is National Name Yourself Day!  Can you tell I’m paying a little too much attention to the weird and random holidays lately?  This one reminded me of an episode of the TV show Friends.  In it the principle character Phoebe decided to legally change her name to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock.  The problem?  She had no idea what a banana hammock actually was.  Hilarity ensued.

 

A few years ago, I learned that I sang the wrong words to the 2005 song “Move Along” by The All-American Rejects.  Apparently oblivious to the NAME of the song, I believed the lyrics to the chorus were, “And even when your hope is gone, mow the lawn, mow the lawn just to make it through.”  Changes the meaning a bit.  Just like Phoebe’s name of choice changed from whimsical to weird when she understood that Banana Hammock was more than just a funny word.

 

Following my realization, I threw up a post on Facebook asking others to share their best misheard lyrics.  I’ll share a couple that made me spit coffee out of my nose.  My Allie used to sing the praise song, “You are the everlasting God” as “You are forever asking God”.  Might be some truth there.  If pop music is more your thing, a friend’s grandson sang Maroon 5’s megahit “Moves Like Jagger” as “I’ve got to move like dragons, I’ve got to move like dragons.”  And Princess Consuela herself thought Elton John’s “Tiny Dancer” went “Hold Me Closer, Tony Danza”.  I’m sure many Who’s the Boss fans relate.  But one of my favorites, Billy Joel’s “Keeping the Faith”, has a whole new meaning when interpreted as “Yeah, yeah, yeah, just a kick in the face!”

 

A couple of weeks ago, the 23rd Psalm, Verse 6 reminded me of a misheard lyric of my own.  I grew up singing the hymn based on this passage, “Surely Goodness and Mercy”.  Even as a child, I had the words right – I held the hymnal with them in my hand.  “Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life.”  A cheery song that left me wondering what in the world surely goodness was.

 

I believe the word of God is without error, but a comma would have helped 2nd grade Lauren understand just what we sang about.  Read this with a pause where I placed the comma.  “Surely, goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life.”  Surely.  A sure thing.  Without a doubt, goodness and mercy follow me wherever I go.  Because I belong to Jesus, goodness and mercy surround me.  Always.  In every way.  Wow.

 

May a pause between two words encourage you today.

 

And now for this week’s featured post from the link up!

 

Jennifer Ross touched me with her sweet tribute to her daughter and a miracle working God in The Gift of a Rose…  I have a baby girl (16 now) with the middle name Rose as well.  Praise God for His precious gifts.

 

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