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Building Spiritual Muscles…and Grace and Truth Link Up

June 12, 2020 by Lauren 22 Comments

Note:  I blogged last week about the heartbreak of racism in our country.  You can read that post here.    I wanted to continue the conversation today, but since I invited two black sisters in Christ to participate with me, it’s taking longer than I would have liked to put together.  So we will hopefully get back to this devastatingly important topic next week.  But for now, I hope this is meaningful to you.  

 

For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.  1 Timothy 4:8 NIV

 

The world is slowly beginning to open up.  At least here in Texas.  I have a high-risk child, so my family and I will not line up for restaurants and nonessential stores yet.  I am, however, starting to think about what life looks like going forward.  The future remains unknown as we watch this virus and wait with the rest of the world.  And though the pandemic brought hardships and inconveniences, I hope  some things will NOT go back to “normal”.

 

A sermon my pastor preached on 1 Timothy 4:6-10 caused me to ruminate on what physical discipline could teach me about spiritual discipline.  Take the science of muscle building.  Bear with me if you know this info already, but in my 20 years of teaching fitness I constantly come across people who don’t know how it works.  When we lift heavy weights or do exercises that challenge us, we cause microscopic tears in the associated muscles.  That sounds bad, but does a body good – even though it makes us feel sore.

 

In an effort at protection, our muscles repair themselves stronger and bigger than before the tears occurred.  We need to rest before stressing the same muscles groups again, as this rebuilding takes a couple of days.  Without time to recover, we might tear the already damaged muscle too much – creating an injury that takes much longer to heal.  This process is the ONLY way to build muscle.  You must tear it down in order to gain strength.

 

During this time of self-isolation, my spiritual disciplines have been torn down.  My Bible study and prayer time needed an overhaul, and this extra time at home helps me dig deeper and linger longer.  I thank God that He listens to our prayers – no matter how lengthy or how organized.  And He’s kind enough not to keep a ledger of our time spent in His word.  So, when the kids go back to school and I punch the time clock again, there may be days when shooting up arrow prayers and reading a devo off my phone in the school pick-up line is all I can manage to squeeze in.  But my goal is to make that the exception.  Not the rule.

 

Psalms 46:10 details the hard work and discipline of the Christian life.  “He says, ‘Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth’”  NIV.  Stillness strains some of us more than lifting the 1,105 lbs to break the world deadlift record!  Eugene Stock said, “There is no such thing as drifting into godliness, ‘the stream of tendency’ is against us.”  MY tendency is to get busy, and fit God around the rest of my life.  But that’s no way to godliness.  We must discipline ourselves in prayer, in study and in witnessing to others of His goodness.

 

Did you catch the last part of Psalms 46:10?  God commands us to exalt Him among the nations.  We don’t see that part on coffee mugs and t-shirts.  But stillness equips us to pass on what we gain.  We are not meant to enjoy His peace and rest selfishly.

 

When we take a break from lifting weights, we get sore all over again after picking them back up.  I pray that no matter how slow or how busy my life, I will continue the discipline of quiet and stillness before Him.

 

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Carlie Lake of From Dust Towards the Heavens hit the nail on the head with her post How to Listen Even When it Hurts.  I feel that poor listening, or the unwillingness to listen, sits at the root of many of our society’s problems.  I know simply listening to people of color won’t change the world, but it’s a good place to start.  Read this post and challenge yourself in this area in the coming week.

 

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To End a Generational Curse

January 16, 2020 by Lauren 18 Comments

Boy, this is tough.  I have a confession.  Whew.  Ok, here goes.  I have been insecure about the way I look since forever.  You aren’t surprised are you?  Most women share those feelings.  As author Jennifer Dukes Lee put it, “We tell ourselves that we’re not enough – or we let our bathroom scales tell us that we’re too much.”  If this was the mindset of only a few, the diet and beauty industries wouldn’t be generating between $50 and $60 billion dollars a year!  Each!

 

I could tell you stories about what I believe caused the genesis of my flimsy self-esteem, but I won’t go down that rabbit hole.  What’s important to me now is helping my daughter avoid the pitfalls of misplaced self worth.  So I jumped at the chance (actually sat in my favorite chair with a cup of tea) to read and review Confident Moms, Confident Daughters:  Helping Your Daughter Live Free from Insecurity and Love How She Looks by Maria Furlough.

 

In the first chapter, the author despells any notion that becoming confident is important simply for its own sake.  As believers in Christ, anything good in us comes from God and God alone.  Furlough tells us that “security is in us.  It always has been.  When we think insecure thoughts or act on our lack of self-confidence, we make the decision to hand our security away.”  And “confidence in who we are as God’s beautiful creations protects us from harming ourselves and others.”  I personally made many unhealthy decisions and gave myself over to risky behaviors and relationships in the quest to feel attractive.

 

The author’s premise is that in order to instill confidence in our daughters, we moms have to be secure in how we look.  And although I agree with this, Furlough’s methods are a little too hokey and simplistic for me.  She advises making lists of things we love about ourselves and having mirror pep talks telling ourselves that we are beautiful.  Although Psalm 139 is a great place to remind ourselves of our worth in our Heavenly Father’s eyes, saying some of those things into a mirror feels a little insincere to me.  And so does a fake it ’til you believe it strategy.

 

The book includes an interview with a pediatrician who advises us to eat “5-2-1-0”.  Five servings of fruit and vegetables per day, two hours max of screen time, one hour of active time and the zero stands for limiting things such as sugary drinks.  This is fabulous advice, but looks like zero teenagers I actually know.

 

Furlough states that we as moms are the confidence standards in our home.  I believe this is absolutely true up until the teenage years.   By that point (according to an expert source that I can’t for the life of me remember but promise I read) parents are in the fourth place of influence for their children.  We lag behind friends, the culture at large, and other authority figures such as teachers and youth ministers.  So while I agree that the stuff we continue to carry around, we pass down to our girls, there are also many other balls in play.

 

Even if we could end our own obsession with physical beauty, society’s obsession rages on.  And that voice is strong for my fourteen year old.  What this book gets so right, though, is that true beauty comes from within.  We wear ourselves out when we focus primarily on the physical, because there will always be someone prettier.  “No matter what we do, say, eat, crunch, or tuck we will never become beautiful enough to fix our confidence problem…Our only hope is healing from the inside out.”

 

We, unfortunately, have an enemy that whispers constantly in our ears that we aren’t good enough.  Our daughters hear it and we hear it.  We can only counteract the negative with God’s truth.  He never intended us all to have the same size noses or the same color complexions or the same size jeans (genes).  He poured His creativity all over us.

 

After reading this book and giving it plenty of thought, I think we moms of girls have three action items here.  First, to pray to the God of miracles for supernatural confidence.  Second, to use our words and actions to help our kids appreciative the unique and beautiful ways God made them.  And three, pray some more and ask God to cover over the many mistakes we will make with our words and actions.

 

The end of each chapter of this book lists “Confident Daughter Discussion Questions”.  My daughter and I have been working our way through them at the table after dinner each night.  We are having the best, most valuable discussions!  (See the second action point above.)  I would pay the cover price many times over for these exchanges with my girl.

 

Your turn.  Do you have any advice for nurturing more confidence in yourself or those under your influence?  Join the conversation by leaving a comment.

 

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I love Jesus, my husband and caffeine. The order of these can change depending on how tired I am. When my two daughters, stepson, and 4 grandchildren get to be too much, I practice yoga. God graciously allows me to share our adventures, victories and flub-ups from my laptop. May He be glorified here.
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