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Better Late Than Never – My Thoughts on Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd and Others…and Grace and Truth Link Up

June 5, 2020 by Lauren 40 Comments

I chose silence with regard to the shooting of Ahmaud Arbery.  Until now.  Because now there is Breonna Taylor.  And now there is George Floyd.  And now it seems we are on fire.  All of this breaks my heart, but I did not see that I could possibly add to what news outlets and those with bigger platforms had already said.  As a middle-aged, middle class white woman, does what I say about it even matter?  Do my thoughts have merit?  I still can’t really answer those questions.  But the more I think about Ahmaud and so many others, the deeper my desire to share a couple of things.

 

First, I offer a brief summary of Ahmaud’s tragedy as I understand it.  On February 23 of this year  Arbery, a 25 year old black man went for a neighborhood run.  A caucasian former police officer and his son chased him down in their vehicle with a shotgun and a handgun because they believed he resembled someone who appeared on surveillance video committing local burglaries.  A third white man followed in his own vehicle and recorded the ensuing confrontation with his cell phone.  What exactly was said and done when these men came face to face we may never know.   Parts of the video are unclear.  However, that Travis McMichael (the younger of the father/son duo) shot and killed an unarmed Arbery at point blank range, is crystal clear.

 

This event, and the fact that the police made no arrests until the video went viral (weeks later), created a storm of media attention.  Once again issues of systemic racism and justice took center stage.  In recent years, similar news stories, church shootings, police profiling, riots and protesting have been a catalyst for me to make some changes.  I took a look at the books I read and movies I watched – realizing that I tend to choose entertainment that looks like me.

 

I am most comfortable with white and middle class.  It’s not pretty, but it’s true.  For the last two or three years (like I said, better late than never), I have made mindful efforts to read authors of different races and nationalities and see movies that speak to viewpoints different from my own.  I forced myself to examine my privilege and any biases and prejudices with which I view the world.  I don’t pretend to be “woke” to the things I’ve been blind to, but I am determined to keep working on it.  In light of recent events, I see my meager efforts are only a drop in a way-too-big bucket.

 

I claim no expertise here.  I have a long way to go and I’m sure I miss the mark a lot.  But here’s what I know for sure.  I can’t pretend that something (like racial bias) doesn’t exist just because it makes me uncomfortable.  It is only my privilege that allowed me to deny it for as long as I did.   I can’t believe these things are inconsequential because I haven’t personally seen them.  It is only my privilege that has kept them from view.

 

This week I had an eye opening conversation with two co-workers.  I posted about it on Instagram and Facebook.  I learned things about my friends that I didn’t know.  I read this blog post by a black sister in Christ.  I listened to the cry of my sister’s heart.  She is white, but her children are not.  I checked out Black or White and The Best of Enemies – both movies about race relations – from the library to watch with my family.   These are all small things, but they are broadening my perspective and increasing my empathy.  Don’t hear me say I can understand.  I never will completely.  But I will keep looking for ways to see more clearly.

 

Here’s what I know.  All life has value.  Some news stories brought Ahmaud Arbery’s character into question.  I read that he had a marijuana habit, that he was a thief, that he couldn’t hold down a job and that he’d had run-in’s with the law.  To all of that I say, “who cares”.  I don’t know what, if any of it, is true.  But what if he was the very person who was burglarizing that neighborhood?  It would not justify anyone taking the law into their own hands.  It definitely doesn’t mean he deserved death.  Genesis 1:27 says God created mankind in His own image.  The Bible lists no exceptions to this.  Black lives matter.

 

Let’s pray.  For an end to senseless violence.  For a stop to injustice in all its forms.  For us to be able to see and celebrate our differences with appreciation and not discrimination.  Let’s pray for us to do better.  For us to be better.  Let’s pray for a better world for my nieces and my grandson.  God help us all.

 

And now for this week’s featured post!

 

Amy Jung of wastelandtograceland.com ministered to me this week with What Leads Me to Pursue the Things I’m Pursuing?  She captured the age old question, “How do I know God’s will for my life?” in a way that made so much sense to me.  It’s almost measurable if we ask instead, “Am I doing what matters most?”  Since we are flawed we will undoubtedly still make mistakes, but if we are walking with Him and praying for Him to show us what matters most in each individual situation, we can relax a little more about the big picture.  And Amy reminds us that there is grace upon grace for the times we get it wrong.  Be encouraged by reading the post here.

 

Now for this week’s link-up! Let’s bless and encourage one another in our walk with the Lord.Grace & Truth : A Weekly Christian Link Up

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May Muster 2020…and Grace and Truth Link Up

May 29, 2020 by Lauren 18 Comments

Happy Mother’s May (not a typo), graduation, end of school, Memorial Day and all the other things!  Celebrating probably looked very different for you this year, but I hope you still did.

 

The social distancing routine continues at Sparks manor, with one improvement.  We now host yard parties for my daughter and her friends and ours as well.  With chairs set at least 6 feet apart and everyone bringing their own food and beverage, we feel safe and also more sane!  If you haven’t already, give this a try.  I LOVE this kind of hospitality.  I don’t have to cook or clean!  My husband and I did work hard initially cleaning up the yards, but they desperately needed a sprucing anyway.

 

Allie, my beautiful but broken-legged daughter graduated from a splint to a boot this month.  She still can’t put weight on it and struggled to hear that she will wear it for at least 9 more weeks.  But she can take the boot off, making baths easier.

 

On Mother’s Day our church held a drive in service at our local football stadium.  We stayed in our cars and tuned into a radio station to hear the praise music and sermon.  After lunch we drove the hour and a half to my parents’ home to see them and my grandfather for the first time since all this mess started.  We refrained from hugging and somehow kept Shelby, our special needs daughter from it (not an easy task – it’s her favorite.)

 

My husband Chuck got his first quarantine haircut – from my 15 year old.  I did not take offense that he trusted her more than me with this task.  There was a direct correlation to her confidence and my lack there of.  He did exhibit some rising anxiety during the process, but she did a great job!  He doesn’t need a hat or anything!

 

Shelby began Rec therapy again, which gives me a much needed couple of hours with a quiet house – even if I’m not alone in it.  It also allows me a break from exercising her for one day a week.  Yay!  A break in routine.  Anything different, please!  I taught my first class in weeks.  Online for the senior adults from the Rec of Grapevine.  It felt good to get back, even if only in a small way.  Check my Facebook page for links to the live Yoga Lite classes on Tuesdays at 1:00pm.

 

For family entertainment we turned to Star Wars Monopoly.  Not my choice.  But we laughed at my bad luck and it kept us busy.  I tried to cajole them into playing until I had lost ALL of my money and property, but we gave out a little shy of that.  We also introduced Allie to Dirty Dancing.  Don’t judge.  It was the stuff of my teen years and has an amazing soundtrack.  We also rewatched The Greatest Showman.  I think that was my fourth time.  I just love a good musical and Hollywood falls short of making many new ones.  And for more good movie songs, we belted along to both Disney Sing-Alongs.  Our Amazon Alexa entertained us with two more games – Song Quiz and Mr. Robot (the later not an actual game, but something Jimmy Fallon made up).

 

The hubs and I consumed quite a few more shows and movies than we could convince our teen to join in.  Green Book, On the Basis of Sex (about Ruth Bader Ginsberg), The Martian, and The Post (with Tom Hanks and Meryl Streep) were all excellent.  I would rate Second Act (with Jennifer Lopez) and The Jane Austen Book Club as OK.  We sampled the new Hulu series The Great about Russia’s Catherine the Great and found it a little too distasteful for our palate, but we love National Geographic’s The 80’s:  The Decade that Made Us.  Talk about nostalgia!  We even got out our high school letter jackets after sitting through a couple.  And promptly put them back away.  Little Fires Everywhere left us slack-jawed and a little speechless.  In the words of my friend Terri, it’s coo-coo-catchoo!  I would still love to talk to someone else about it.

 

In more literary pursuits, I actually finished a couple of the books I mentioned last month and began My Dear Hamilton:  A Novel of Eliza Schuyler Hamilton by Stephanie Dray and Laura Kamoie.  It’s been on my to-read list for a couple of years and I finally quit letting other things get in the way.  These authors also wrote one of my very favorite books, America’s First Daughter:  A Novel.  If you like history even a little, I highly recommend them.  I also set off with some self-discovery and hopefully healing with Stephen Arterburn’s Lose it for Life.

 

What made your May a little better?  Drop a comment below with your movies, shows, books or activities.  I love hearing from you.  And as parts of the world start to slowly open up, I pray you remain safe and sane!  And to close; I love you, I thank you, and I hope June treats you well.

 

And now for this week’s featured post!

 

Body Image and Intimacy:  3 Effects it Has On Your Marriage sadly resonated with me because I struggle with negative thoughts about myself when I’m with my husband.  Angie from keepingthetiethatbinds.com both reminded me that I’m not alone and encouraged me not to simply accept this.  Click here to read the post and give her some comment love for linking up with us!

 

Now for this week’s link-up! Let’s bless and encourage one another in our walk with the Lord.

Grace & Truth : A Weekly Christian Link Up

Grace & Truth exists to point people to Jesus! We hope this link-up will be a source of encouragement every week. If you’re a blogger, we hope you’ll use this space as a way to meet new friends within the Christian blogging community. If you’re a reader, we hope that you’ll encounter new bloggers that love Jesus as much as you do! Most of all, we hope you’ll meet Jesus here.

Join us each Friday for the Grace and Truth Link-Up!

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Heather Hart & Valerie Riese

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Maree Dee

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Lauren Sparks

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