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When Life is Not a Hallmark Christmas Movie

December 19, 2019 by Lauren 28 Comments

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My husband and I watched Christmas Town last night – the first Hallmark Christmas movie I have convinced anyone to watch with me this year.  I admit I haven’t always appreciated them.  Some seasons they seemed much too simple, cheesy and formulaic.  I mean, they do all follow the same basic recipe.  Girl from big city with lousy relationship somehow finds herself in a quaint little town with snow and Yuletide decorations galore.  She happens upon a rugged stranger and sparks fly.  But there is always some obstacle to them falling in love.

 

The roadblock, which is eventually overcome, usually takes the form of a job in another city or the previously mentioned lousy relationship.  In the end, true love and happiness win out and the Christmas spirit is prominently displayed.  The scripts contain no bad language and only one or two chaste kisses to seal the new relationship deal.  It’s all very neat and cozy and sweet.  And I just felt like I needed it.

 

I LOVE Christmas.  It’s somewhat of a family joke.  I love the music and decorations and horrible Christmas sweaters.  I want to do ALL of the events – concerts and light tours and parties.  I record all the classic Christmas specials and beg my husband and kids to watch with me.  And even though I live in Texas, I dream of a white Christmas and serene family gatherings.  But life isn’t really like a Hallmark Christmas movie, is it?

 

This is the third year in a row that my family experienced something really difficult right at holiday time.  It’s hard, and somehow seems unfair due to the bill of goods we’ve been sold by card makers and retailers and story books alike.  There isn’t always enough money.  Decorations don’t always look perfect.  Jobs don’t last forever, and relationships aren’t always easy.  And that may not be the Norman Rockwell-esque picture of a modern Christmas, but I think it’s a lot like the first Christmas.

 

Scandal surrounded the birth of our King.  Tongues wagged at the teenage, unmarried and pregnant Mary.  Having little money to speak of, she walked or rode a donkey for mile after dusty mile with her betrothed.  With no decent rooms available, they bedded down in a barn.  When her contractions started, she was without her mother or midwife or ANYONE who knew of the birthing process.  Mary must have been so frightened as many women didn’t survive childbirth before modern medicine.

 

They must have been so thirsty.  Did Mary and Joseph have to drink the same water the animals were drinking?  What must the smells have been like in that barn.  And after Jesus came, did she have clothes to replace the ones covered in blood and afterbirth?  Were the cattle really “lowing” as the popular carol states?  Or were they freaked out by the screaming and crying associated with childbirth.  And amidst all the chaos, our Savior was born.  Our fate forever changed.  (Find the story here.)

 

Nichole Nordeman’s “What Child is This/ Fragile” might be my new favorite Christmas carol.  Between the verses of this song written over 150 years ago, the singer weaves in reminders of our current state:

This, this is Christ the King,
Whom shepherds guard and angels sing;
Haste, haste to bring Him laud,
The babe, the son of Mary

On and on the rain will fall like tears from the star.

On and on the rain will say how fragile we are.

 

The heavenly mixed with the earthly.  Weakness buoyed by strength.  This, this is what Christmas is all about.  His first coming was messy, just like our Christmases now.  But He made Himself low and joined us in the mess out of love.  And that’s how it will be until Jesus comes again.  His light will penetrate our darkness.  He will bring joy where there has been none.  He will love us and rescue us time and again when we don’t deserve it.  There’s nothing too messy for Him to step into.  Jesus our Savior is with us, within us until He comes back here in bodily form to reign as a mighty King.  Then all will be perfect forevermore for those who believe.

 

Do you know Jesus this Christmas?  Not just the little baby in the manger, but the Savior who came to earth.  He took the blame for all your sins and put them to death with Him on the cross.  All you have to do is believe that He was born to die for you.  Once you believe in His saving grace, He enters into your life – messes and all.  He offers the ONLY forgiveness of sins and gives help and hope this Christmas.  If you want to know more about His birth in a stable and death on a cross I would love to meet or correspond with you.  Drop me a note here or keep it confidential by visiting the CONTACT tab on this page.  I pray if you haven’t already, that you receive the best gift available today.  MERRY CHRISTMAS!

 

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Filed Under: Christian, Christmas, forgiveness, Jesus, joy, Rescue Tagged With: Christmas Town, Hallmark Christmas movies, Joseph, Mary, messy, Nichole Nordeman, savior, What Child is This/ Fragile

Comments

  1. Patty Moore says

    December 20, 2019 at 1:15 pm

    This is real and true, and I thank you for it.

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 20, 2019 at 2:36 pm

      You are welcome, Patty. Hope you find joy in Christmas this year.

      Reply
  2. Susan Shipe says

    December 20, 2019 at 3:51 pm

    Lauren, this is absolutely perfect in every way. I know Him and I am eternally grateful! Neighbors at FMF.

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 20, 2019 at 11:13 pm

      I am so grateful too Susan. Merry Christmas!

      Reply
  3. Sabrina says

    December 20, 2019 at 4:20 pm

    This is raw and beautiful. It was exactly the right description of the word and thank you for sharing it with the world.

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 20, 2019 at 11:13 pm

      Thank you, Sabrina. Merry Christmas.

      Reply
  4. Carol says

    December 20, 2019 at 4:36 pm

    I agree. Christmas is often not at all like the Hallmark version. The birth of jesus, like you clearly write, included suffering and sacrifice. But through it all God was sovereign. We can rejoice with the gift he has given and His sovereignty. Have a blessed Christmas! Visiting from FMF

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 20, 2019 at 11:13 pm

      What a gift! Merry Christmas, Carol.

      Reply
  5. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser says

    December 20, 2019 at 5:38 pm

    Life isn’t like a Christmas movie,
    but I am singing through the pain,
    and in my choice of feelin’ groovy
    I will let blaze what time remains.
    This cancer will not get me down
    although it means my worldly end,
    but I’m intending to earn renown
    ‘fore that day comes when God hits Send.
    I’ll burn the days and dance the nights,
    take what life gives at the flood,
    festoon my heart with fairy lights,
    draw smiley faces with my blood.
    I’ll pass along all joy within,
    and when I die, real joy begins.

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 20, 2019 at 11:12 pm

      You are such a beautiful poet, Andrew.

      Reply
  6. Calvonia Radford says

    December 20, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    What a beautiful description of the messiest of Christmases. The messiest of births. The one that brought us salvation. Merry Christmas.

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 20, 2019 at 11:11 pm

      Merry Christmas, Calvonia.

      Reply
  7. Linda Stoll says

    December 21, 2019 at 11:14 pm

    Lauren, thanks for the gentle reminder that the first Christmas was filled with challenges. Problems. Surprises.

    Yet God is with us! And He never leaves! Advent blessings to you and yours …

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 22, 2019 at 11:50 pm

      Merry Christmas, Linda.

      Reply
  8. Laurie says

    December 22, 2019 at 7:59 pm

    I love the new additions to the traditional Christmas carol too. I think some of the carols and stories do tend to sanitize the birth of Jesus. Any mother can tell you that childbirth is messy, confusing, and painful. God incarnate experienced the full human condition.

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 22, 2019 at 11:50 pm

      Yes! Thanks for reading, Laurie. And Merry Christmas!

      Reply
  9. Michele Morin says

    December 23, 2019 at 11:21 pm

    Thank you, Lauren. It’s always important to remember that Christmas has nothing to do with our circumstances–or our decorations. Blessings to you as you celebrate your non-Hallmark version of Jesus’s birthday!

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 23, 2019 at 11:24 pm

      Thank you, Michele. Merry Christmas!

      Reply
  10. ~ linda says

    December 25, 2019 at 9:56 pm

    Thank you for opening your heart to us…to me. Yes, this season is difficult in ways that the world does not “see” yet there are many others who struggle. I am learning how beautiful it is to lean on my Savior, trusting in Him to walk with me and hold me close. I am grateful for Him and to Him. Thank you and wishing you a Christmas Day filled with the peace of Christ.
    Caring through Christ, ~ Linda

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 27, 2019 at 2:47 am

      Thank you, Linda for entering the conversation. Hope you enjoy your holidays.

      Reply
  11. Patsy Burnette says

    December 26, 2019 at 3:17 pm

    Very little, if any, of my life has been like a Hallmark movie. I feel like it’s that way for many of us, but that’s ok. Love your points here.

    Tweeted.

    Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 27, 2019 at 2:47 am

      I hear you patsy. Thanks so much for sharing.

      Reply
  12. Jill says

    December 26, 2019 at 4:18 pm

    Beautifully written and such a good reminder! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas!

    Jill – Doused in Pink

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      December 27, 2019 at 2:46 am

      Thank you Jill. You too.

      Reply
  13. Shelbee on the Edge says

    January 1, 2020 at 11:53 am

    Another beautiful post and message, Lauren. Life and Christmas are not Hallmark movies and they tend to be giant messes for most of us, I suspect. I guess that’s why so many of us enjoy the escape into the innocence of a Hallmark movie. Even in the moments of struggle during this holiday season, I do hope you were still able to enjoy time spent with loved ones celebrating the true meaning of Christmas. Wishing you all the best in the new year.

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

    Reply
    • Lauren says

      January 1, 2020 at 7:08 pm

      I think you are right about why we like them. Thank you for your kind and sweet reply. And Happy New Year!

      Reply
  14. Verla Ranson says

    February 17, 2020 at 7:47 am

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    has helped me enormously, is a very good topic.

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    Reply
    • Lauren says

      February 18, 2020 at 8:41 am

      I’m so glad it was helpful to you, Verla. Thank you for visiting.

      Reply

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