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Does Everything REALLY Happen for a Reason?

July 27, 2018 by Lauren 30 Comments

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I saw a recommendation for this book and couldn’t resist.  It’s the story of a young wife, mom and college professor who stares down the barrel of a Stage IV cancer diagnosis.  Doesn’t it sound like something you would immediately be drawn to?  Although not a light and breezy summer beach read, I’m so thankful I found it.  The author records beautifully the wonderful moments, painful experiences and seeming injustices of life as she fights for hers.  Kate Bowler writes with honesty, wit and the bluntness I assume only one dying obtains as she questions doctors, God and well-intentioned friends and relatives.

While a student at Yale Divinity School, Bowler wrote her doctoral dissertation entitled Blessed:  A History of the American Prosperity Gospel.  THIS is what propels her current book from poignant memoir to fascinating study of human emotions and reasoning.  The infamous prosperity gospel promises health, wealth and happiness to those who pray enough, have faith enough and sin little.  Churches all over the country preach this message and Kate sat in many and interviewed preachers and parishioners of many others for her first book.  But just a few years after, she can’t reconcile these teachings to herself and her young family as they battle her incurable illness.  In her infirmary, she receives letters from all over the country written by people of varying theologies.  Some preaching that she is somehow spiritually lacking because she is suffering.  Others weathering storms of their own who’ve been further crushed under the weight of well-meaning folks insisting that gut-wrenchingly painful situations could simply disappear if he/she was somehow a better Christian.

 

Bowler’s title question begged me to respond, if for no other reason than the personal confirmation of my own faith.  Does everything really happen for a reason?  I can tell you that you won’t find that phrase in the Bible.  On the surface, I think this belief can make us feel better.  If you don’t spend too much time exploring it, this philosophy might help “make sense” of some seemingly senseless things.  But some things really are beyond all reason.  Cancer in children.  Sex-trafficking of innocents.  9/11.  There is no “reason” that makes sense of these unless that “reason” is simply that we live in a sinful and fallen world.  So there is no comfort in it if the reason isn’t good.

 

So where is our comfort when the pain defies logic?  Romans 8:28.  “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”  NASB  We may not always know why something happened, but the Bible tells us that God can, and will make good things happen from it.  Through the lens of pain and our limited human vision, it may take a while to see the good, but good WILL come.  It’s a promise.

 

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Book Review: The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

May 31, 2018 by Lauren 16 Comments

 

I know this is not at all a professional way to start a book review, but I CAN’T EVEN WITH THIS.  The main reason I am writing a review is that I NEED to continue processing what I have read and everyone in my life is tired of hearing me talk about this (sorry, Chuck).  So I need one – or multiples – of you to read this book so that we can discuss like Coffee Talk with Linda Richmond!  Don’t let my enthusiasm scare you into thinking this is a brain-washing cult.  Just click here to order from Amazon (I’ll get a few cents if you use this link) and then I’ll explain in the next couple of paragraphs why you have made a wise purchase.

 

I consume a lot of Christian media – fiction and non-fiction books, movies, blogs and podcasts.  Pretty much everything but music.  Go figure.  For the last several months it seems like everything I have read and listened to with a Believer’s bent has referenced the Enneagram.  I honed in on the fact that it was some kind of personality typing, but felt out of the loop every time someone mentioned their “number” or asked their fellow conversant where they fell on the scale.  I decided I needed the low down on a) what it was, and b)why faith-based influencers were so into it.  A quick internet search lead me to this current, popular exploration of the ancient system and how it ties into our spirituality.  I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it.

 

In studying this ancient tool, author Ian Morgan Cron learned that it’s “full of wisdom for people who want to get out of their own way and become who they were created to be.”  His mentor encouraged him to continue to grow in self-knowledge to become more aware of his need for God’s grace; and prayed over him, “May you learn to see your self with the same delight, pride, and expectation with which God sees you in every moment.”  The book’s author’s admits that the Enneagram is an imprecise model of personality…but a still very useful one.  Cron finishes his introduction by saying, “Life hands us a challenging syllabus.  We need all the help we can get.”

 

The Enneagram has 9 basic personality types that I cannot get into here or I will be digging a hole I will not be able to get out of and you would never read.  But each of the nine types is more susceptible to one of the 7 deadly sins (plus fear and deceit) than other temptations.  This is one of the main ways the Enneagram sets itself apart from other personality inventories.  It doesn’t simply seek to explain to you what you are for knowledge sake, but helps you identify the weaknesses that stand in the way of a deeper relationship with the Creator of who you are.

 

The book dedicates an entire chapter to each of the 9 types explaining their common characteristics, what it’s like to be that type (or number), their deadly sin, how they manifested their number in childhood, and even some famous examples of the type.  Perhaps the most interesting information is how each number might correspond to the numbers next to it on the Enneagram circle and what number each type gravitates to in times of security and times of stress.  It sounds a little complicated, but it has taken just enough of my band-width to keep me sucked in.

 

I love awakening to myself in the different types, as well as trying to type my loved ones to learn how I can better interact with them (although the book warns against telling anyone that you have them all figured out ;).  I won’t bother telling you what I think I am for two reasons.  First, it won’t mean much to you if you haven’t read the book; and second,  I’m not 100% sure.  I need to read another book for an assignment, so I have forced myself to put this one down for the time being.  But I plan to pick it back up and re-read a few of the chapters for verification.  This is huge for me!  I never, ever re-read.  The list of books I WANT to read is so long that I am a one-and-done girl.  But not this time.  And THAT is the best endorsement I can give you to read this book!

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I love Jesus, my husband and caffeine. The order of these can change depending on how tired I am. When my two daughters, stepson, and 4 grandchildren get to be too much, I practice yoga. God graciously allows me to share our adventures, victories and flub-ups from my laptop. May He be glorified here.
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