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Does Everything REALLY Happen for a Reason?

July 27, 2018 by Lauren 30 Comments

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I saw a recommendation for this book and couldn’t resist.  It’s the story of a young wife, mom and college professor who stares down the barrel of a Stage IV cancer diagnosis.  Doesn’t it sound like something you would immediately be drawn to?  Although not a light and breezy summer beach read, I’m so thankful I found it.  The author records beautifully the wonderful moments, painful experiences and seeming injustices of life as she fights for hers.  Kate Bowler writes with honesty, wit and the bluntness I assume only one dying obtains as she questions doctors, God and well-intentioned friends and relatives.

While a student at Yale Divinity School, Bowler wrote her doctoral dissertation entitled Blessed:  A History of the American Prosperity Gospel.  THIS is what propels her current book from poignant memoir to fascinating study of human emotions and reasoning.  The infamous prosperity gospel promises health, wealth and happiness to those who pray enough, have faith enough and sin little.  Churches all over the country preach this message and Kate sat in many and interviewed preachers and parishioners of many others for her first book.  But just a few years after, she can’t reconcile these teachings to herself and her young family as they battle her incurable illness.  In her infirmary, she receives letters from all over the country written by people of varying theologies.  Some preaching that she is somehow spiritually lacking because she is suffering.  Others weathering storms of their own who’ve been further crushed under the weight of well-meaning folks insisting that gut-wrenchingly painful situations could simply disappear if he/she was somehow a better Christian.

 

Bowler’s title question begged me to respond, if for no other reason than the personal confirmation of my own faith.  Does everything really happen for a reason?  I can tell you that you won’t find that phrase in the Bible.  On the surface, I think this belief can make us feel better.  If you don’t spend too much time exploring it, this philosophy might help “make sense” of some seemingly senseless things.  But some things really are beyond all reason.  Cancer in children.  Sex-trafficking of innocents.  9/11.  There is no “reason” that makes sense of these unless that “reason” is simply that we live in a sinful and fallen world.  So there is no comfort in it if the reason isn’t good.

 

So where is our comfort when the pain defies logic?  Romans 8:28.  “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”  NASB  We may not always know why something happened, but the Bible tells us that God can, and will make good things happen from it.  Through the lens of pain and our limited human vision, it may take a while to see the good, but good WILL come.  It’s a promise.

 

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Filed Under: book review, Christian, death, trusting God Tagged With: cancer, dying, Everything Happens for a Reason, Kate Bowler, prosperity gospel

Comments

  1. Laurie says

    July 27, 2018 at 12:09 pm

    Thank you for the wonderful book recommendation, Lauren. I have never been a fan of the “prosperity gospel”, and I think anyone who suggests that someone is stricken with stage IV cancer due to moral failings on their part should do some soul searching. This is not the message of Christianity (or it shouldn’t be).

    You ask a good question – why is there suffering in the world? The best answer I can find is “not as the world gives do I give to you”. I think it is not for us to understand.

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    • Lauren says

      July 27, 2018 at 2:16 pm

      That’s so hard sometimes, isn’t it Laurie? Thanks so much for engaging!

      Reply
  2. Debra Boucher says

    July 27, 2018 at 8:26 pm

    I found this book as I recovered from surgery after having been diagnosed with kidney cancer. Her story helped me put words around my own experience. God is good all the time, even when suffering and disease change the trajectory of our lives. I think her insight is important for anyone living in Christian community. Life is hard and living in proximity to pain and suffering can be devastating, but it is also required as part of the body of Christ. We can lean into suffering with our whole hearts, or minimize it with our platitudes.

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    • Lauren says

      July 28, 2018 at 1:13 am

      So wise, Debra. Thank you.

      Reply
  3. Elizabeth says

    July 29, 2018 at 1:26 pm

    Seeking to find a reason for suffering, as in “did this man sin or his parents?”, is probably as old as the fall of man. Knowing that God promises to never every leave us, forsake us, or let us go whatever may come – priceless!

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    • Lauren says

      July 29, 2018 at 3:59 pm

      Yes, Elizabeth. Brilliantly put. Thank you.

      Reply
  4. April J Harris says

    July 30, 2018 at 11:14 am

    This sounds like an incredibly thought-provoking book! Thank you so much for sharing it with us at the Hearth and Soul Link Party. I hope you will visit again this week. Have a lovely week, Lauren.

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    • Lauren says

      July 30, 2018 at 2:44 pm

      Thank you, April.

      Reply
  5. Tea With Jennifer says

    July 31, 2018 at 2:22 am

    Hi Lauren,
    Thank you for that review, it comes down to trust in God when the hard times come & when we also enjoy the good times!
    Jennifer

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    • Lauren says

      July 31, 2018 at 3:44 am

      Yes!

      Reply
  6. Maree Dee says

    July 31, 2018 at 3:09 pm

    Thank you for the book recommendation. It looks good. I don’t believe all things happen for a reason but I do know God will use it all for good if we are willing.

    Thank you for sharing with Grace & Truth Christian Link-Up.

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    • Lauren says

      July 31, 2018 at 8:23 pm

      Yes!

      Reply
  7. Debbie Kitterman says

    July 31, 2018 at 5:18 pm

    Lauren, thank you so much for your thoughtful and thorough review of this book. It sounds like one I need to put on my to read list. I am sadden by the stance some Christians take that others are sick because they aren’t good enough, praying enough or doing the right things. I’m pretty sure Jesus set us straight about all that wrong thinking when He healed the man and the “religious” leaders wanted to know whose sin had caused his condition. As a pastor and ministry leader, this book sounds very insightful for aiding in speaking to others and helping them navigate deal with painful or difficult situations they may find themselves in.

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    • Lauren says

      July 31, 2018 at 8:47 pm

      I think it would be. Thanks for weighing in, Debbie.

      Reply
  8. Calleen Petersen says

    July 31, 2018 at 7:42 pm

    A good reminder.

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  9. Marva | SunSparkleShine says

    July 31, 2018 at 8:26 pm

    I’m pinning this and adding it to my reading wish list. I’ve often repeated that line myself but the point is well taken — we won’t always find a logical reason this side of heaven. Yet, we know that God is always working things out according His plan.
    Blessings to you!

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    • Lauren says

      July 31, 2018 at 8:48 pm

      I think you will enjoy it. Thanks, Marva.

      Reply
  10. Lesley says

    July 31, 2018 at 8:47 pm

    Thanks for sharing this review. It sounds like a helpful book. There’s an important difference between believing God causes everything to happen for a reason and believing that he can work for good in all things.

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    • Lauren says

      July 31, 2018 at 10:21 pm

      Absolutely, Lesley. Thank you for reading and engaging!

      Reply
  11. My Early Retirement Journey says

    August 1, 2018 at 1:13 am

    I agree wholeheartedly. I actually don’t like it when people say that to me or other people for comfort. I find it not comforting at all. Thanks for taking the words out of my mind. Thanks for stopping by #trafficjamweekend

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  12. Melissa Gendreau says

    August 1, 2018 at 2:55 pm

    As a Christian mental health therapist, I’ve had many clients sitting on my couch crushed by the words of “prosperity gospel” – as they then have come to believe they are not a “good enough” Christian because they are struggling/suffering from mental health issues.

    2 Corinthians 5:7 I will walk by faith even when I cannot see.

    That is faith and trust in God in all seasons of our life, even when we cannot see the rhyme or reason behind the pain. But it is to know that we serve a loving and good God.

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    • Lauren says

      August 1, 2018 at 5:31 pm

      Yes we do. Thank you for commenting, Melissa.

      Reply
  13. Connie Rowland says

    August 1, 2018 at 5:21 pm

    We may never know the reason for our pain. Or maybe we will. But God always has a plan and it is usually to bring us closer to Him. I love this verse you shared from Romans. It always helps me to take a step back and see how God is working in my life. Yes, He can cause good and bad things to benefit us in the end. Praying for you Lauren and those who have left comments. Blessings!

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    • Lauren says

      August 1, 2018 at 5:31 pm

      Thank you, Connie.

      Reply
  14. Aixa says

    August 1, 2018 at 5:21 pm

    It is so hard to explain some of the things we get to experience and see, yet we are called not to lean on our own understanding but to trust God completely and set out hope in Him.

    Thanks for the book recommendation and thought-provoking post!

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    • Lauren says

      August 1, 2018 at 5:32 pm

      Not trusting our own understanding can be so hard, but so crucial to peace. Thank you, Axia.

      Reply
  15. nylse says

    August 1, 2018 at 8:20 pm

    I read this book and I can appreciate the author’s viewpoint. Romans 8:28 is being bashed (it seems to be a trend) because as humans we want the reason for everything to make sense to us and it often doesn’t. We literally forget about the sovereignty of God in our challenging circumstances but remember it during our good circumstances. And that was never the point. God is God. Stuff happens. If we believe He is in control we look up to Him always.
    It was a good read but I wish it reinforced the sovereignty of God more.

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    • Lauren says

      August 2, 2018 at 12:00 am

      Interesting. I didn’t find it Romans 8:28 bashing at all. Funny how we can get two different things reading the same book. I did agree with you that more Jesus would have made the book even better. Thanks for sharing your opinion!

      Reply
  16. Christin says

    August 10, 2018 at 7:56 am

    Sounds like a great book! When my dad battled his illness and eventually went home to be with the Lord, Romans 8:28 was what got our family through those tough times. When life doesn’t make sense, all we have to hold onto are His promises. Thanks for sharing!

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    • Lauren says

      August 10, 2018 at 2:39 pm

      I am so sorry for your loss, Christin. Isn’t it wonderfully comforting to know you will be reunited? Thanks for visiting.

      Reply

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