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What About My Questions?

August 16, 2018 by Lauren 23 Comments

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I’ve been listening to Annie F. Downs’ podcast called “That Sounds Fun”.  If you haven’t ever tuned in, I would highly recommend it, although it’s not as light and airy as the title implies.  Annie interviews Christian authors, musicians, ministry leaders and athletes currently making an impact for God’s kingdom.  And sometimes the conversations get deep.  Recently she spoke with two back to back guests about crisis’ of faith.  This topic stirred my heart in light of a recent guest lecture I attended at church on Generation Z (kids born between 1999 and 2015 – like mine).  All three resources had one theme in common – the lack of a safe place to take questions.

 

For those of us who came to a believing relationship with Christ at a young age, the decision might have been a no brainer.  When presented with a scenario like, “Jesus loves you.  Won’t you love Him too?”  Of course.  Why not?  Then we grow up.  And although the Bible’s teachings about Jesus remain the same, we awaken to the ever changing landscape of the world.  There are many different flavors of people and we aren’t sure how they all fit in.  We experience heartbreak.  There’s dissension in our church.  Someone we love and respect views the Bible differently than we do.  Disease or death strikes a devastating blow, or our “’til death do us part” falls far short.  When life looks so very different from the way we imagine it, our faith often takes a hit.

 

I have walked with a friend who traveled back to square one – examining EVERYTHING she believed and taking nothing for granted.  I personally have experienced what I’ll call minor doubts – never questioning the existence of a loving God or even a Savior who gave His life for me – but becoming uneasy or unsure of other Biblical teachings and church doctrine.  What do we do with this?  I have heard faith compared to a brick wall.  It stands strong and sturdy, but many believers are afraid that if one brick crumbles near the bottom, the whole thing will topple.  So we shy away from testing the strength of the bricks.  We don’t ask the questions because we are either afraid of the answers or afraid we won’t be able to find the answers.  Or do we fear what others will say/think of our doubts?

 

When we don’t have anywhere to go with our questions or even suspect that our faith is not strong enough to endure them, we are closer than we may realize to abandoning it altogether.  And I’m afraid that’s exactly what happens to many Christians who grow up and out into the world.  They find it easier to walk away than to wrestle.  Who wouldn’t?

 

But the truth is, Christianity has survived for more generations than we can count.  And the Bible remains the most published and read book in the world for hundreds of years now.  More importantly, our God withstands the scrutiny.  When we are wrestling the thing out (studying, praying, seeking counsel), whether it be theological questions, or anger at God, or just flat confusion, we are in relationship with Him.  That’s what He wants.  Communion with us.  Do you remember memorizing John 3:16?  God sent Jesus – this whole thing – because He “so loved the world.”  NIV

 

Testing our faith can make it stronger.  Not only is it important for us to know that personally, but we need to be intentional about making sure our homes and our churches are safe places for people to have doubts.  That’s how we build a strong community of faith.  But as we struggle with issues and feelings we must remember that we are not God.  Isaiah 55:8 NIV says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.  Some things we may not wrap our finite minds completely around.  Although there is evidence to be found, sometimes our faith simply takes faith, which Hebrews 11:1 ESV defines as “the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.”  God promises, however, that when we meet Him face to face it heaven, it will all become clear.  “For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.  Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.”  1 Corinthians 13:12 NIV

 

When we wrestle, we actually hold on tight.  That’s the only way to victory.  Think of questioning in those terms.  And happy grappling!

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An Alarming Trend

June 17, 2018 by Lauren 20 Comments

 

In 2015, I first wrote of my love for People magazine and it’s long-standing position as my “Favorite Guilty Pleasure”.  You can read the original confession here.  It comes to my house free every week (it started as an airline miles for mags thing and has continued to be the gift that keeps on giving) and it provides me a mental vacation from the sometimes more challenging books and Bible studies I may be consuming.  Then I always pass it on to a friend who shares the same affection for this light-weight fare, but who also doesn’t love it enough to pay for it.

 

This issue, however, was not the fluffy time waster to which I have grown accustomed.  This issue broke my heart.  Not because I had any kind of personal connection to the cover stars, but because of the devastating rate at which I hear of a new suicide now.  Just last week the centers for disease control released a report showing that suicide rates went up by more than 30% in half of the United States between 1999 and 2016.  Experts are “struggling to understand why numbers have risen so dramatically.”  Based on these two stories alone we can deduce that money, fame, prestige, celebrity nor even adventure can make a person happy.  It’s a hard thing to study, but contributing factors are often isolation, job stress, relationship problems, addiction, mood disorders and anxiety.

 

My friend Stacey, a Licensed Professional Counselor, gave me the following analogy:  Suicidal thoughts are like standing on the 100th floor of a skyscraper that is completely on fire.  People down on the street are saying, “Don’t jump!”  But you are standing in a building of flames and at least if you jump you avoid the torture of being burned alive.  To truly “save” the person, we can’t just dissuade him/her from jumping.  We have to run into the building and put out the fire.  In plain speak, we have to offer hope.

 

As believers in Christ, we have the hope the world needs. 

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As believers in Christ, we have the hope the world needs.  Satan is the father of lies and an accuser who is constantly telling us that we are hopeless, that no one loves us and that no one can help us.  But in Jesus, we find unconditional love, purpose, truth, abundant life, and acceptance.  And maybe most importantly, we have hope.  “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,”  1 Peter 1:3 NASB.  In Him we know that our present suffering won’t last forever.  We know that He can work ANYTHING we experience for our good (Romans 8:28).  We know that one day, through Jesus, all evil will be abolished (Romans 16:20).  And we know that “He will wipe away every tear…and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain;”  Revelation 21:4.

 

I don’t mean to over-simplify this issue.  I’m not naive enough to think that Christians never kill themselves.  And mental illness is very real and very complex.  But I do know that there is always hope and there is always help.  Focus on the Family has a free hotline at 1-855-771-HELP (4357) staffed by licensed professional counselors offering guidance from a biblical perspective.  As does Hope for the Heart Ministries at 1-800-488-HOPE (4673).  Both can also provide a list of Christian counselors in your area for continued care and follow up.  For urgent assistance around the clock, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available at 1-800-273-8255.  The local church is also a great resource to find help for you or someone you know who is struggling.

 

It’s a big battlefield out there, but we serve a VERY BIG GOD.  Offer hope.  Tell others about Jesus.

 

“For I know the plans I have for you, ” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

 

 

 

 

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I love Jesus, my husband and caffeine. The order of these can change depending on how tired I am. When my two daughters, stepson, and 4 grandchildren get to be too much, I practice yoga. God graciously allows me to share our adventures, victories and flub-ups from my laptop. May He be glorified here.
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