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Joy and Sorrow in Community

June 23, 2023 by Lauren 10 Comments

I came across an old proverb a few months ago on joy and sorrow that I keep circling back to chew on: “Shared joy is double joy.  Shared sorrow is half sorrow.”

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These thoughts are beautiful in their simplicity, and yet the more I meditate on them, the more depth I find.  I have written many times on the importance of community.  And the challenges I have with it.  And the longing I have for it, as well as the blessings I find in others.  But community holds a special place in my examination of joy – my word of the year.

 

Breaking Down Joy and Sorrow with Others

 

I bought a little house decoration I found on clearance for my bedroom.  It says, “Double Each Other’s Joy”.  A reminder in the room I share with my husband.  And while I think intentionally doing things that would bring joy to a spouse or a friend is a great way to show love, I see the wisdom in sharing our joy with our loved ones as well.

 

Think about the first thing you want to do when something great happens.  Who do you want to tell?  I know the super spiritual thing would be to pray with gratitude immediately.  But my first instinct is usually to tell my husband and then my mom.  And then depending on how good it is, maybe a couple of friends and my sisters.  But I don’t believe this is an unspiritual reaction.  One of the bible verses I am memorizing this year says, “I have so much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink.  Instead, I hope to visit and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.”  2 John 12 NIV

 

Even the apostle John found joy in a face to face visit.  That passage often makes me think of my best friend, who lives in another state.  We call each other often to catch up, but sometimes we take advantage of FaceTime technology.  I just love to see her face and expressions when I share my news.  Seeing her – even on a little screen – is the next best thing to visiting in person.  It brings me joy!

 

The Flip Side

 

Why do we need community in our sorrow?  Galatians 6:2 says, “Carry each others’ burdens and so you will fulfill the law of Christ.” NIV  Western culture tries to convince us that we are only strong when we are independent.  That we can handle the thing and do it ourselves.  But that’s not God’s culture.  The truth is, no one truly does anything alone.

 

A couple of years ago when Kylie Jenner appeared in Forbes magazine as the youngest self-made billionaire, she created an uproar.  She built a make-up empire from money that she made modeling.  Sure.  And I don’t mean to take away from the business savvy she must have to turn it into billions, but she came from money.  And a famous family.  These things created a serious leg up that most people will never have.  As did Donald Trump’s loan of $1 million from his father, a sum the average joe would never qualify for.  And may that be the last time I use a Trump or a Kardashian as a devotional illustration!

 

Back to my point.  We all come from somewhere or something that helps us along our way.  God first and foremost.  Not only does He own all and give all, but 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NIV describes Him as the ultimate comforter “who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”  That’s how shared sorrow can be half the sorrow.  When we carry it with others, it doesn’t feel as heavy.  God comforts us, we comfort others and in turn, they comfort us through life’s obstacles – big and small.  It’s a cycle that keeps going when we participate in it.

 

And it all leads to joy.  Share your joy below so we can rejoice with you or share your sorrow below so we can comfort you through prayers and encouragement.  And don’t forget to share with your friends and family members IRL.  In this small obedience, we can bring the kingdom of God to earth.

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There is not much I like more than historical fiction, so I had to share Linda Stoll’s recommendations as I’ll be checking them out too!

 

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God’s Word and a Scalpel

February 10, 2023 by Lauren 6 Comments

scalpelI had surgery to correct tennis elbow on May 18 of last year. I don’t play tennis. But supposedly many different types of repetitive motion can cause the tendons to fray. The surgeon’s scalpel made an inch and a half long incision, pulled the tendon away from the bone, and shaved the offending frays from that tendon. The doctor then sewed the tendon back to the bone before doing something to cause additional bleeding. This extra bleeding supposedly brings quicker and more complete healing.

 

My elbow hurt more in the days after the surgery than before. I knew that wouldn’t always be the case, but was necessary for healing.

 

God Often Brings Growth through Suffering

 

“Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I obey your word.” Psalm 119:27 NIV

 

God makes it clear many times in scripture that we will not escape hardship in this life.  Sometimes He allows us to endure pain to teach us obedience.  Natural consequences can direct us to a better way. And suffering can increase our dependence on Him. We won’t always find a lesson in our heartache.  Sorrow, grief and distress are natural ramifications of living in a broken world.  But there would be no demerit systems, school detentions or time outs if discomfort offered no instruction or reformation.

 

God Brings Growth Through Scripture

 

“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12 NIV

 

God’s word can be comforting.  We often buy wall art and home decor plastered with passages about God’s love and care for us.  We create or share memes for social media with verses about God’s good plans for us or encouragement to be strong and courageous.  And I would never want to diminish these expressions of God’s great grace and mercy for us.  But we can’t grasp on to the tender promises and ignore the instruction and conviction the Bible contains.

 

You will probably never see Hebrews 4:12 (above) cross stitched on a pillow, but it’s an important precept to understand and follow.  We love to talk about the abundant life we have in Christ, but that requires we walk in righteousness.  God’s word lays out His design for His creation – that’s us.  When we ignore that, we forfeit (at least for the time of disobedience) the blessings of right living.  God overflows with grace and mercy, but He will not allow His people to remain in sin forever.

 

How God’s Word Cuts

 

Not all of God’s word is comforting.  Some of it is cutting and convicting.  But it cuts to heal – like a surgeon’s scalpel.

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How   The cuts my doctor made were so tender after surgery that I held a wide berth around everything on my right side.  I didn’t want to touch anything and I didn’t want anything to touch me.  And I didn’t even want to think about flexing and extending my arm.  But I had full faith that my elbow would heal and return to better function than before.  Closer to God’s design for the elbow.  And heal it has.  I don’t regret the pain of the procedure for a second.

 

That’s the faith I have in God’s convicting and reforming Word.  It cuts straight to the heart if I let it.  It makes sometimes painful corrections to our actions and the thoughts and attitudes that brought about those actions.  But momentary pain, in the hands of our Lord and Savior, molds us more and more into the image of Christ.  God’s design for us.

 

I would love to hear your thoughts on pain and suffering in this world and God’s part in it.  Drop a comment below to join the conversation.

 

And now for this week’s featured post from the link up!

When You Try Trusting God & Things Get Worse.  I’ve definitely felt that.  If you have, this post from Donna Reidland will encourage you.

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