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Hurts so Good: Enduring Hard Things for Greater Good

February 5, 2021 by Lauren 32 Comments

Lesson #1 in Trust – my word for 2021.

I’m writing this from Cook Children’s Hospital watching my daughter eat a cafeteria food dinner.  Just 3 days ago, she endured a 5 hour spinal fusion surgery.  One for which the doctor told me they would have a neuro line to continuously monitor all her limbs to make sure her brain was still communicating to them.  I wanted to plug my ears and say, “la, la, la, la, I can’t hear you”.  I’m that mature.  I prefer to stay blissfully unaware of things like that.

 

The morning of Shelby’s procedure, I tearfully hugged her and asked my husband if we could change our minds.  I knew a slow (6ish weeks) and painful recovery awaited her.  Since they would cut through her back muscles, hard work awaited her to be able to rebuild enough strength to sit up, stand and support herself.  And trying to make our special needs young lady understand that she can’t bend, twist or lift for a while sounded impossible.

 

And yet I knew that the 64 degree curvature of her scoliosis could not go untreated.  It would eventually impinge on her vital organs causing immeasurable complications and eventually death.  Could we have avoided this painful process for her.  Yes.  For a while.  Is she better off going through it?  Absolutely.  And I request that some of you remind me of that more than once over the next few weeks.

 

I imagine God might feel this way at times.  Difficult circumstances in our lives can be direct consequences of our own actions.  But more often than not, we don’t understand why certain things happen.  Can the all-powerful God protect us from anything bad ever crossing our paths?  Of course He can, but He allows that which will benefit us or someone else in the long game.

 

I won’t pretend to know why God does what He does.  If I completely understood Him, He wouldn’t be God.  He’d be just like me.  And I’m not someone you would want to create and sustain the universe.  But I did find a few possible explanations for our sufferings in the New Testament.

 

  1.  To be able to relate to others and comfort them with the comfort we’ve been given.  If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 2 Corinthians 1:6 NIV
  2. To develop maturity. Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.  James 1:2-4 NIV  But don’t beat yourself up if your “monster” doesn’t leave you joy-filled.  We are allowed to grieve and express those true feelings.  “Considering” it joy simply means that you know God is in control and therefore you know He will bring some good out of it.  
  3. To turn our hearts toward heaven.  For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands. 2 Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, 3 because when we are clothed, we will not be found naked. 4 For while we are in this tent, we groan and are burdened, because we do not wish to be unclothed but to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life.  2 Corinthians 5:1-4 NIV  We all work extremely hard to be comfortable here.  Each new invention and modern convenience supposedly makes our lives easier.  When we struggle, it reminds us of our eternal hope – a perfect place in the presence of our Savior.  
  4. To teach us to depend on God and not ourselves. Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead.  2 Corinthians 1:9 NIV  With the touch of a keyboard we can seemingly find the answer to almost anything.  It becomes pretty easy to think we can handle almost anything.  But when things happen beyond our control (death, illness, job loss, relationship drama, natural disaster to name a few), we often lean harder into Jesus.  And that’s what He ALWAYS wants, whether we face an annoyance or a catastrophe.
  5. To bring glory to Himself.  As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. 2 His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”  3 “Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him.  John 9:1-3 NIV  God can use anything to show us or someone watching us more of who He is.  And the more people who understand His majesty and might, the more people come to a saving and life-changing relationship with Him.  

 

The surgeon told us Shelby would probably be 2 inches taller with her spine in proper alignment.  I will be curious to see the difference once she is able to stand fully again.  And just like Shelby, the most growth often happens through painful things.

 

And now for this week’s featured post!

 

Have You Lost Your Joy and Happiness? by Maree Dee struck a chord with me this week.  Maree’s way of speaking truth and encouraging simultaneously reminds me of the way Jesus taught.  Visit Maree at embracingtheunexpected.com.  It might be just what you need.

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Top 10 Blog Posts of 2020

January 8, 2021 by Lauren 19 Comments

We have rounded another year.  I say “another” as if it retains any semblance to the others.  It doesn’t.  But I have lived (somewhat), written, felt and survived to do it all again.  I am so very thankful that the challenges of 2020 pushed me closer and closer to my Heavenly Father, but now I would like them to end (said in jest – sort of).

 

I want to thank you, bloggy friend, for taking the time to follow my writing and for any amount of time sacrificed to read these words.  It means more to me than you could possibly know.  And each and every comment left was like a present for me to open.  While I know now more than ever that I have no idea what topics the future will provide for this website, I still plan a little, holding it loosely.  Proverbs 19:21 says, Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. NIV  I desire deeply for God’s purpose to be fulfilled here.  

 

So I looked back for research at what posts you all enjoyed most from last year.  This information helps me hone in on what is helpful and meaningful to you.  So I present to you (in case you missed any of these or would like to revisit) the top 10 most viewed posts from my site in 2020.  And thank you again being such an important community for me. (Also, take a gander at my list of the top posts of 2019 here.)

 

10.  The Good Thing V. the God Thing  February 7, 2020

Mark 1:40-45 tells the story of a man Jesus cured of leprosy only to command him to keep his miraculous healing to himself.  Common sense seems to say that Jesus’ ministry would only be enhanced by the sharing of this good news.  But God’s ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9), so we must seek His guidance in all things and not forge ahead using only our own feeble wisdom.

 

9.  God is Good…but Life is Still Hard  March 6, 2020

Certain situations and events from the year past drove me to study Job.  Good ol’ Job who lost his wealth, his family and finally his own health.  Although he lamented (this can be so healthy), Job never lost his faith in God.  In the midst of his heartache – before any earthly blessing was restored to him – Job exclaimed, “I know that my redeemer lives, and that in the end he will stand on the earth.”  (19:25)  When all else slips away, we can cling to that.

 

8.  I Love…  February 14, 2020

This Valentine’s Day post only touched on romantic love.  It’s more about the many things and people I love and am thankful for in this life.  Even though I wrote this pre-Covid 19, reading the list again encouraged me.  So many of my treasures I still enjoy in the midst of it.  I hope it encourages you too.

 

7.  Better Late than Never – My Thoughts on Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd and Others  June 5, 2020

As the death of several black Americans set our world on fire last summer, I struggled with whether or not my voice in matters of systemic racism and injustice mattered.  But I finally had to speak – with people that I know and with my computer keys.  I forced myself to examine my privilege and any biases and prejudices with which I view the world.  I don’t pretend to be “woke” to the things I’ve been blind to, but I am determined to keep working on it.  All life has value.  Genesis 1:27 says God created mankind in His own image.  The Bible lists no exceptions to this.  Black lives matter.

 

6.  The Pursuit  May 8, 2020

Using a different translation of Psalm 23:6 gave me a deepened perspective on God’s vast love for us. He created us, He loves us, and He wants us.  In this world that is still so full of uncertainty, I find great comfort in this.  In Him.

 

5.  Farewell to February  February 28, 2020

This was the only month end review to make the list.  Reading again about all my social activities pre-virus almost brought a tear to my eye.  May it be again soon, Lord.

 

4.  Today I Cannot…a Coronavirus Lament  May 15, 2020

The title of this one explains itself pretty well.  It took me a couple of months of lock down to reach this boiling point, but many of these things still grieve me (although some days my will to endure stays stronger than the moment in time I penned this).  Maybe you can relate to some of my things.  And maybe you just need to read the verse at the end for comfort and hope.

 

3.  A Conversation on Race, Part 1  June 19, 2020

Two fellow bloggers of color, Yvonne Chase and Calvonia Radford agreed to an interview on the issues of racial injustice that news journalists and the everyman with a cell phone brought to the forefront of our consciousness.  I will warn those of you that look like me that it’s not easy to read.  But I pray you will be prompted to examine your own heart against the feelings and facts they share. We still have a long way to go in the arena of race relations in America.  You might just find a good start here.  And don’t miss the links to their websites. Read Part II of this conversation as well.  “In a racist society, it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti-racist.”  – Angela Davis

 

2.  These are a Few of My Favorite Things (100 to Be Exact)  November 6, 2020

“If I am losing it beyond the normal parameters of losing it, I write out or say 100 things I am grateful for.”  – Jami Amerine.  She calls this a gratitude blitz and I tried my hand at it a couple of months ago.  That this list landed in the #2 spot tells me a lot about our need for positivity right now.  Hopefully something you read here will touch you, encourage you, entertain you or motivate you to make your own list.  And maybe we will decide – at least for a moment – that things really aren’t that bad.

 

1.   Dear Teenage Daughter, You Aren’t Entitled  February 21, 2020

I suspect from this #1 post that some of you deal with the challenges of an entitled generation.  I promise you that this letter, written two days before my teen’s  birthday has a happy ending.  And she gave me her permission and approval.  Part rant, part lesson and confession from me – it is all heart.  And I could not love her more.

 

This concludes a year in the life of this blogger.  A year I honestly hope we never see the likes of again.  But important lessons for me – and maybe you – reside here.  I hope you are informed or encouraged, and I pray God is glorified here.  I thank you, again, for being my reader friends and hope this relationship continues into the new year.  Also, happy birthday to the best Papa in the world (and Elvis).

 

And now for this week’s featured post!

 

In keeping with the theme of my post for this week, I chose Heather Hart’s Top Candid Posts of 2020 on candidlychristian.com.  I would love nothing better than for you to hop over and see some well-loved posts from one of my teammates at Grace and Truth (after you read mine of course).  😉

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