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A Helpful Guest Post

July 14, 2018 by Lauren Leave a Comment

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Last week, I shared about my new venture and my need for tips and tricks to simplify my life.  You can find that post here.  One area I could use a little extra help is in keep my home clean and organized.  I’ve made a new friend in the blogosphere who is an expert.  She owns a company in the UK that does the cleaning and organizing for you and she writes super helpful articles on the subject.  I thought you might be interested in reading one.  So today, I’m turning my blog over to Zowie Ashton!

 

How to motivate yourself to do the cleaning chores
You know how your eyes are a reflection of your soul? Well, your house is a reflection of yourself and the way you keep it represents the way you see yourself and the way others see you. Of course, you’re not the messy slob your home says you are, but why do your keep your home in such a horrific state?
I used to be one of those people who hated cleaning, actually, I still hate it to the bottom of my soul. Even though I knew just what a health hazard my dirty house was, I used to find it very difficult to motivate myself to clean my home. Luckily, one day I finally decided I’ve had enough of my dirty home and I was determined to find motivation and clean my property. To my great surprise, I did manage to motivate myself. And because I want to help others like me, I’ve gathered the things that got me going on cleaning my house.
First, I made it fun. This was perhaps the most difficult thing for me to achieve. I used to view cleaning as part of a tiresome and boring routine which I could postpone as long as I wanted. So, in order to change my perception I started listening to music, dancing with the vacuum cleaner. I even started competing with my neighbor – a stay-at-home, clean-fanatic woman and I made it my goal to make my bed faster than her (I still haven’t, but I’m working on it).
Then I made it my routine. I learned how to do to the evening routines and how to start my day. I had heard that making the bed in the morning is enough to motivate you to be productive for the rest of the day, so I decided to try it for myself. I kept a record of my ‘motivation levels’ for one month without making the bed and one month with making the bed. I found a peculiar tendency and I prove that making the bed is important. Throughout that 1 month of not making the bed I ate 5 kilos of ice-cream, I rarely worked out and I was really grumpy at the office. People, If you want to be healthy and fun to be around – routinize your cleaning.
Thirdly, I learned how to prioritize. I didn’t want to become the same as my clean-fanatic neighbor who spends 30 hours a week in cleaning – for me it was enough that my home is decluttered. Before I invited guests over, I made sure that my home was tidy, not necessarily clean. No one would notice the dust on my fridge, but my dirty sock on the floor would undoubtedly shock my guests.
Even though I managed to keep myself motivated in terms of cleaning, that motivation didn’t last long. I needed something new if I wanted to keep my home in a good condition. And so I decided to start using homemade cleaning detergents. I tried every essential oil, every DIY cleaning solution. Everything that included the words ‘cleanser’ and ‘homemade’ – I did it. I have to admit this was really exciting for me – and even keeps me interested in cleaning to this day. I love it that I can keep my home spic and span without the use of a single hazardous chemical.
You don’t need to be a cleaning-freak to have a clean home. A few things a day can do wonders in the long run. Try my motivation tricks and share your progress.
Kind regards,
Zowie

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Grad, Prom and all the Feelings

May 20, 2018 by Lauren 28 Comments

She’s a senior.  My daughter Shelby IS    A   SENIOR.  As the end of the school year races to a close, I’m trying to stay in my feelings.  My temptation is to stuff them down and barrel through this season, but I know this approach will only leave me with bigger, pent-up, frustrated feelings down the road.  So better for me to be open to the emotions as they come:  joy, sadness, pain, loss, frustration and happiness.  I vacillate between them all.  And probably a few I haven’t identified yet.

 

She’s a senior.  But for us, not much will change after graduation.  I was asked by the school to fill out this form for the awards ceremony:

 

These are just 3 of several questions that didn’t offer an answer remotely relating to my girl.  No where to even mark “not applicable”.  I closed the form in frustration.  Uncompleted.  Unsubmitted.  We won’t be going to the awards ceremony.  There is nothing there for us.  After our summer break, Shelby will go right back to high school to the transition program.  And while I am so very thankful for this option for her, it would be dishonest to say that I don’t grieve a “normal” future for her.  She will never go off to college, live on her own, marry or have children.  As we watch others prepare for these milestones, and as we anticipate our younger daughter doing the same in just a few years, grief comes anew.  Instead of questionnaires for awards ceremonies, I’m filling out forms like this:

so that we can have a current and accurate IQ test for Shelby as we go to court to be appointed her legal guardians at age 18.

While all of this future talk can be a little sad and a little sobering, there are still lots of senior activities to look forward to.  Like this:

 

 

Shelby got to go to prom.  Complete with friends, a corsage and a limo!  I am so very grateful to the Best Buddies organization and an especially sweet and loving group of kids who have a heart for the differently abled.  I believe I scared a poor 17 year old when I hugged her and shed way to many tears on her formal attire to thank her for including my girl.

 

On Monday, Shelby gets to do an elementary walk.  This tradition takes the seniors back to their first school in graduation gowns to walk the halls and see all their old teachers.  She gets to participate in Baccalaureate – a religious service for the graduates (having already been presented in our own church on Senior Recognition Sunday).  On the the last day of school, Chuck and I will get to join other parents and friends lining the halls of the high school to Clap Out the seniors as they exit the building for the last time.  Then she will help round out the Best Buddies team for field day!  And finally she will get to walk across the stage with the help of her teacher and favorite paraprofessional to receive her diploma with her classmates.  So much she does get to do.  So much fun!

 

So although I am allowing myself to feel whatever comes, today I feel grateful.  Today I am choosing to celebrate the “lasts” with this sweet baby – even if there are no exciting “firsts” to follow.  Today, I am hugging my daughter close and telling her how proud I am that she is made in the image of our incredible God.  And today, I thank Him for allowing me to mother such an incredible gift.  Today I praise God because Shelby is “fearfully and wonderfully made”.  (Psalm 139:14)

CONGRATULATIONS TO SHELBY AND THE CLASS OF 2018

 

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I love Jesus, my husband and caffeine. The order of these can change depending on how tired I am. When my two daughters, stepson, and 4 grandchildren get to be too much, I practice yoga. God graciously allows me to share our adventures, victories and flub-ups from my laptop. May He be glorified here.
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