Lauren Sparks

The Sparks Notes

  • Home
  • About
  • Favorites
  • Policies
  • Contact

Giving God Guardianship…and Grace and Truth Link Up

July 23, 2021 by Lauren 22 Comments

My daughter Shelby turned 21 this month.  I don’t know whether to consider 18 or 21 more significant in the life of a young adult, but both signify milestones of a sort.  For me 21 means the hard work of changing every one of her doctors from pediatric specialists to adult care practitioners.  This proves more difficult when combined with finding docs who accept her government issued insurance.  She has private insurance through my husband’s work, but once she turns 26 she will lose it and depend solely on the other.  And I don’t want to do all this again in 5 years.  Oh yes, we also have to transition her insurance.

 

All of this made me reminiscent of that 18th birthday.  After a lot of expense and paperwork, the courts appointed my husband and me as Shelby’s legal guardians.  I wrote about it previously, so I will only summarize here.  We basically had her declared incompetent.  A hard thing to say, but a harder thing to do.

 

I promise this is not a Britney Spears-type situation.  Don’t @ me with your #freeShelby.  Since Shelby is developmentally about 2 years old, she isn’t fit to make her own decisions or make her own money.  This step ensured that doctors, pharmacists, school personnel and other institutions will forever give us access to records and managing authority.

 

When the court day arrived and the guardianship granted, I immediately felt relief.  But as soon as I got out of the courthouse, grief enveloped me.  I started to cry and didn’t stop for 30 minutes.  I had no doubt that Chuck and I did the right thing, but mourned the “adult” that Shelby would never get to be.

 

Trust

God has been teaching me to trust Him this year.  I chose TRUST (or it chose me) for my One Word 2021.  It struck me that I often feel the same dichotomy of relief and grief about my decisions as I did on that summer day outside the courthouse.  As I’ve turned some things over to God (Or to be more forthcoming,  He ripped them out of my unwilling hands.), I grieved.  For what I would not be able to know and what I could no longer do.  But the relief.

The ceasing of striving.  The conversion of things from constant obsession to daily prayer request.  That’s good.  Knowing that God is in control (and I never really was) brings a sense of peace I haven’t experienced in a long time.

Click To Tweet

 

Every year, my husband and I must petition the court for renewal of the guardianship granted over my daughter.  In the same way, I periodically (okay, maybe multiple times a day) must renew my trust in the God of the Universe to be my managing authority.  Old habits die hard, after all.  I attempt to nose my way into situations and wrestle back control more often than I like to admit.  And every time I convince myself that I need the reins again, my anxiety skyrockets.

 

I am no more equipped to handle what should be entrusted to God than my sweet Shelby can handle the responsibilities of adulthood.  (Sometimes I wonder if I can handle adulthood!)  But every time I err on the side of self-reliance, God graciously steps in again – letting me know that He never really let go.

 

And now for this week’s featured post from the link up!

 

I hope you are reading this from your comfiest chair with your feet up because this post is like a warm hug.  Karen “Girl” Friday expounds on discerning true love in a sea of distortions.  And it’s an encouragement to be reminded of how God loves us.  Read Hang-ups about Love and Recapturing  the Truth.

 

Grace and Truth_Rules

1. Share 1 or 2 of your most recent CHRISTIAN LIVING posts. (No DIY, crafts, recipes, or inappropriate articles.) All links are randomly sorted.

2. Comment on 1 or 2 other links. Grace & Truth linkup encourages community.

3. Every host features one entry from the previous week. To be featured, include this button or link back here on your post (mandatory to be featured, but not to participate).

Grace Truth_Button

We encourage you to follow our hosts on their blogs or social media.

MAREE DEE – Embracing the Unexpected
Blog | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Pinterest

HEATHER HART & VALERIE RIESE – Candidly Christian
Blog | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Pinterest

LAUREN SPARKS
Blog | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Pinterest

LISA BURGESS – Lisa notes
Blog | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Pinterest

Now Let’s Link Up!

You are invited to the Inlinkz link party!

Click here to enter


Sharing is caring! If you liked this post, do me the huge honor of using the buttons below to share it to your favorite social media accounts. And if you want to get these essays emailed to you once a week, subscribe!  Lastly, my posts may contain affiliate links and I earn from qualifying purchases. If you buy anything from one of these links, I will receive a few pennies to help offset the cost of this website at no additional charge to you. Thank you in advance for your help.

 

 

Share this:

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)
  • Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window)
  • Click to print (Opens in new window)

Let’s Connect

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter

About Me

I love Jesus, my husband and caffeine. The order of these can change depending on how tired I am. When my two daughters, stepson, and 4 grandchildren get to be too much, I practice yoga. God graciously allows me to share our adventures, victories and flub-ups from my laptop. May He be glorified here.
Read More

Subscribe for Updates

Enter your information below to receive the latest updates from the blog!

Recent Posts

  • I’ve Got Tears in My Ears (and Other Funny Titles)
  • Verse Mapping Joy!
  • Grace Upon Grace
  • First Friday Prayers: Prayer for the Caregiver
  • The Grand Finale of February

Find Devotionals By Me in These Books and Click on Image for Order Information!

A 25-Week Bible Study with Topics from Abide to Zeal
A 26 week journey to a better prayer life.
30 devotionals for faith that moves mountains

For Sharing

Lauren Sparks

Like Podcasts? I’m on This One

…and This One! click to listen.

Click below to get a free trial of my favorite technology monitoring platform

Need More Than Just Monitoring? Find Filters and Accountability Here

Search This Site

Categories

Archives

Copyright © 2023 Lauren Sparks | Design by Traci Michele | Development by MRM

Stop!  Don't Miss Out!

I have a brand new e-book.  This was Not On My Bingo Card:  Essays on Cancer and Related Surprises is available to you FREE by simply subscribing to my blog!  

Invalid email address
I promise not to spam you. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Thanks for subscribing!