Dear Teenage Daughter,
You aren’t entitled to obey only when you feel like it.
You aren’t entitled to make all your own decisions.
You aren’t entitled to an allowance without contributing to the chores in our household.
You aren’t entitled to stay out as late as you want.
You aren’t entitled to all the fineries and material goods that your friends can afford.
You aren’t entitled to free speech at the expense of others’ feelings.
You aren’t entitled to a 24 hour parent ATM.
You aren’t entitled to treat your parent like an on-call uber, cook or maid.
You aren’t entitled to take your anger and frustration out on those who love you.
And you aren’t entitled to the freedoms of adulthood with none of the responsibility.
But Dear Teenage Daughter,
I am not entitled to reciprocate when you lash out.
I am not entitled to a stress and drama-free home.
I am not entitled to build a protective bubble to keep you from hurting or stumbling.
I am not entitled to singular control over my time and resources.
I am not entitled to a clutterless existence.
I am not entitled to make all your decisions for you.
I am not entitled to discipline out of pride or anger.
I am not entitled to lay on a guilt trip when you’d rather not be with me.
I am not entitled to behavior from you that makes me “look good”.
And I am not entitled to keep you a little girl forever.
But just maybe, there is enough grace to cover us both. I love you.
For of His fullness [a]we have all received, and [b]grace upon grace. John 1:16
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People are Hard to Hate Up Close by Laurie Hess of Meditations in Motion.
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❤️ was a this! The teenage years are rough (we have two daughters). Keep her close, but let her try her wings. Pray hard. She’s almost ready to transition to your best friend!
Thank you for this encouragement, Anita.
Okay. I needed this. Only, it’s my teenage son. We’ve needed a lot of grace this week. 🤦🏼♀️
I’m sorry the week has been hard. We all experience it. Praying for you both right now.
So much wisdom in this post. And amen to grace for all of us.
Thank you, Barbara. And amen!
Oh, Lauren…if only I could have read this when I had teenagers. What a wise and loving post.
Thank you for the feature!
Thanks, Laurie. And you are more than welcome. I loved your post.
THIS!!! I like how it goes both ways. Both parents and daughters. I am sooo sharing this! #trafficjamweekend You are my choice for this weeks link up!
Thank you so much, Tracy! I appreciate it so much.
I love this. It definitely rings true for me and my teen daughter. Thanks for linking up with Hello Monday! Tanya – The Other Side of the Road
Loving a teen is hard and painful and beautiful and rewarding. For sure.
I’ve raised 2 teenage daughters and have a 3rd one right now and these really are not my issues. Not sure if it’s cultural or us applying the Word differently. I’m not saying they were perfect but somehow we made it work.
I wasn’t this teenage girl either, so maybe that shapes my perspective.
You are truly bless, Nylse. Thanks for weighing in.
I love this list of things neither parent nor child are entitled to. That keeps us all in the realm of grace.
Laurie’s post made a big impression on me too. I appreciate her honesty. We all have people in our lives that can do some atrocious things (and sometimes those people are us).
Thanks for weighing in, Lisa!
Oh my goodness, I have tears! Love it!
Thank you, Nicole!
Lauren, I needed to read this. I am not entitled to my daughter living her life the way I want her to. I have to let her be her own person. Thank you so much for sharing this! Pinning and sharing.
I keep having to remind myself of those things, Angela!
Second post I’ve read today about teens. The teen years can be so challenging—especially with girls and all the girl drama! I remember. I also remember how difficult I was as a teen. I regret how I treated my sweet mama back then. I love her so much now. Thanks for these reminders and for hosting the link-up!
Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!
I agree, Patsy! Thanks for reading and commenting.
dear lauren … i would have loved to receive this note when I was a teen … and would have loved to have sent it to my girls when they were making their way through that difficult season.
bless you for sharing it now …
Thanks, Linda. I did share it with my 15 year old. She appreciated hearing it.
Love the lists. Each sides must compromise for both to win.
So right, Theresa.
What a beautiful letter to your daughter. I could have written a similar letter when my sons were teenagers. It is good to think about the give and take of parenting and being a child and the fact there is grace enough for both.
Thank you, Mary.
Wow, Lauren! That is extraordinarily powerful! While I do not have teenagers, this is super helpful to me as well as my little guys have been challenging me daily! Such great perspective. Thanks for sharing and linking up.
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Thank you, Shelbee. Glad it is helpful!
Thank you for the feature!