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A Conversation on Race, Part I…and Grace and Truth Link Up

June 19, 2020 by Lauren 30 Comments

“In a racist society, it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti-racist.”  – Angela Davis

 

If I have learned anything the last few weeks it is the words in the quote above.  I have heard many voices giving many different opinions about what is going on in our country, and somewhere in there is the truth.  But here is what I know for sure.  We still have a long way to go in the arena of race relations in America.  In an effort to keep learning and growing, I have asked two black sisters in Christ who are also bloggers to join me in this discussion.

 

Yvonne Chase aka the Single Woman’s Cheerleader and Calvonia Radford of realtalk859.wordpress.com graciously agreed to dialogue with me and let me share our conversation with you.  I encourage you to visit their websites and read their insights on this matter and many others.  And I pray God uses this exchange to further His kingdom and encourage love, healing and fellowship.

 

Yvonne wrote a post called Silence Speaks Volumes that I referenced in my blog a couple of weeks ago.  In it, she mentioned that it took her several days to publish a post about the unrest all around us for fear of offending others.  I asked her why she was afraid.

 

Yvonne:  “…most of the readers of my blog are white Christian women.  My blog is not for the faint of heart.  Much of what I write about can be seen as offensive simply because I’m a Christian woman and we’re not supposed to have certain conversations in such a bold way.   The church is too silent on issues that matter.  Let’s face it, most people can’t handle the truth even when it’s tempered with grace.  In that post, I called out white women on their silence that I see all too often on social media when something happens to the black community.  I see it repeatedly and it’s bothersome.”

 

Calvonia wrote a blog post called, “Say Their Names”.  I asked her why it is important to say the names of those who have been victimized.

 

Calvonia:  “In a society where social media news feeds and 24/7 television stations throw sound bites and news clips to us at the speed of lightening, we tend to react before we absorb the information  Speaking their names out loud causes us to think of them as humans with unique personality traits, gifts and talents.  For me, hearing their names made me feel their mother’s pain.  It prevented me from making their rap sheet top priority.  Rather, I wanted to know them personally.  I craved to hear their stories.”

 

And now, my questions for both ladies:

 

What do you want white people to know?

 

Calvonia:  “I want white people to know we are just as similar as we are different.  Black and brown skinned people are not an anomaly.  I want them to know we are scared.  When we watch the news, we see deeper than whatever happened that day.  We see black and white film strips in the civil rights archives.  We grab our children and give them “the talk” once again.  Because we know the media is not misleading us about racism.  We have experienced it far too often.  It’s like a nightmare you never wake up from.”

 

How would you like your white brothers and sisters to respond to this cultural moment?

 

Yvonne:  “I would like them to care…When you care, you take authentic action.  You post on social media from a place of empathy, not pressure.  You write a blog post because what happened to George and black people in America breaks your heart.  I want them to respond the way they would if George was their son or family member or close friend.  I want them to say what’s happening to black people in America is wrong because they believe and know that deep in their hearts, not because the entire world is now saying it.  Black people didn’t just arrive on the scene.  Now all of a sudden because of a modern-day lynching, you care.  Why didn’t you care before?  Why did it take seeing a knee on the neck of a black man for you to care?  Answering that question will uncover what’s in their hearts.”

 

Calvonia:  “I want them to respond with compassion.  Check in on me.  Ask me how I’m doing and wait to hear the answer.  I would love for them to ask me questions instead of telling me all of this is not real.  Ask me about my experience.  And listen – actively listen – with no preconceived ideas.  I want them to listen with the intent to discover something new about me and to identify something within themselves.

 

 

Readers, I have more of this conversation to share with you, but I don’t want to rush it.  These women have given us a glimpse of their heart and their experience.  It’s too important to skim over.  I encourage you to go back and read the answers to these questions once again.  If you primarily see racism, the protests and all the discussions surrounding them as political, then I would challenge you to listen closer.  Listen to the pain, fear and frustration in these answers.  Better yet, as Calvonia suggested, ask someone of color that you know how they are feeling.  What they are experiencing.  Do it IRL (in real life).  And then come back next week to learn some more from my blogger friends in “A Conversation on Race, Part II”.

 

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Barbara Harper Lee of Stray Thoughts:  A Home for the Stray Thoughts of an Ordinary Christian Woman, reviewed Dr. Michelle Bengtson‘s book Breaking Anxiety’s Grip:  How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises here.  Michelle is a fellow believing blogger (I love alliteration.) and a board certified clinical neuropsychologist.  In this time of Covid 19, high unemployment and racial tensions, not to mention normal daily stresses and fears, I needed to learn about this resource.  Visit both of these ladies online for voices of wisdom and biblical encouragement.

 

Now for this week’s link-up! Let’s bless and encourage one another in our walk with the Lord.

 

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Why I Re-Love the Word Tolerance

September 12, 2019 by Lauren 26 Comments

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The cry for tolerance has long been a plea for groups feeling oppressed and marginalized.  For hundreds of years, religions, economic classes, political parties, and racial and ethnic minorities, and more recently – the LGBTQ+ community –  have asked for freedoms and forbearance from the majority of society.  As a teenager and into my young adult years, I grew to hate the word tolerance.  The root word TOLERATE left a bad taste in my mouth.  I thought I could either “like” someone or “tolerate” them, but I couldn’t do both.  Almost as if “tolerate” and “disdain” were first cousins.

 

I’m not sure how I arrived at my skewed interpretation.  Maybe it’s because I only ever heard the word bandied about in circles of hatred.  Maybe because each occurence of it in the news involved protests or violence or the like.  But somewhere along the way I decided I would never say I tolerate anyone.  I loved everyone – whether we agreed or not.  That was that.  And I felt like a much better Christian because of it.

 

In our current, volatile, easily offendable climate we seem to have forgotten some basics.  Like how to love, how to disagree, and even how to converse.  People and groups of all walks of life wish to be seen and heard – but don’t offer the same courtesy.  We all want people to see through the same lenses we wear.  And since the bulk of our communication is done by computer or phone, we no longer have to look at someone and see his or her pain and frustration.

 

To love is to agree.  That seems to be today’s unspoken mantra.  We vilify those who see things differently in this country and rarely try to walk a mile in anyone else’s shoes.  In A Practical Guide to Culture:  Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World, the authors refer to this as ad hominem fallacy – attacking the person rather than the argument.

 

Brett Kunkle, one of the authors of the book, spoke at my church recently.  He gave this definition of tolerate – “to recognize and respect others beliefs without sharing them”.  I found a similar explanation on thefreedictionary.com.  “To recognize and respect (the rights, beliefs, and practices of others).”  I searched several dictionaries, and more negative definitions exist, but I prefer this one.  Tolerance assumes there IS some disagreement.  And yet respect and recognition coincide with it.  All people are created equal.  We are all image bearers of the Creator.  “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”  Genesis 1:27 NASB  All ideas and behaviors, however, are not necessarily equal.  So as long as there are people, we will have differences of opinion.  

 

We need to once again embrace the idea that debates can be civil.  Love and disagreement can lay side by side…in the same bed…under the same roof.  We need to recognize that one belief or characteristic does not a whole person make.  Just because you vote differently than I do, does not mean I can’t see that you are kind and generous and fun to be with.  And just because our socio-economic backgrounds are like night and day doesn’t mean you aren’t smart and dependable and humble.  My race, class, religion, sex, family status or sexual orientation are not the whole of who I am.  And they don’t define you either.

 

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“If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body [a]to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.”  1 Corinthians 13:1-3 NASB

 

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