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Becoming a Better Friend

November 29, 2018 by Lauren 39 Comments

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Friends are my favorite.  Really.  I’ve written about friendship several times before.  My favorite TV show is Friends, I’m currently reading a book about the show “Friends” (I’ll Be There For You:  The One About Friends), my most-loved childhood cartoon is The Fox and the Hound, and nothing fills my oversized coffee mug like time with friends.

 

I’m in a season of life in which I no longer take time with friends for granted.  I seek it out like water in the desert and treasure it when found.  When offered the opportunity to read and review Becoming Gertrude:  How Our Friendships Shape Our Faith, I jumped at the chance.  The subtitle spoke to a seeking part of my soul.  But I was initially disappointed, feeling like this little book misrepresented itself.  I got all the way to the end, closed the cover and thought, “That book wasn’t about friendship at all!  It’s about service!  Oh.” 

A light bulb went off. Maybe that’s the point.

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The author, Janice Peterson, teaches that “you can’t separate caring from service in spiritual friendship”.  It takes time and creativity to be a good friend, but so much growth comes from it.  She says, in fact, that when this kind of hospitality is done well, “you experience something profound.  Something like the Jewish word shalom – a sense of wholeness.”  I was reminded that giving myself away doesn’t have to be a big thing – just an intentional one.  And it requires slowing down.  “Giving people space and a listening ear and heart are often rare in today’s world.  And people are hungry for it, whether they’re aware of it or not.”

 

I confess I’ve been so concerned with what I’ve missed receiving from time with friends that I haven’t really thought about what I’m not giving.  Selfishness works that way, I guess.  When I opened my eyes to those around me I found someone dealing with chronic pain who is weary.  But after spending some time with her, I learned she is also a hoot!  And I saw a church member with no one to drive her home from major surgery and discovered a strong and faithful warrior who encourages me to be better.   When I volunteered to help some friends with a big project – well, I just helped.  Not every act of faithfulness gives immediate warm fuzzies.  But…

 

Maybe…just maybe… friendship and service share a lot in common after all.

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I love Jesus, my husband and caffeine. The order of these can change depending on how tired I am. When my two daughters, stepson, and 4 grandchildren get to be too much, I practice yoga. God graciously allows me to share our adventures, victories and flub-ups from my laptop. May He be glorified here.
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